If you want to receive certain qualities from those around you, you must start by living the mantra: Be what you seek.
In other words, if you desire better friends, a supportive partner, more love, or even a better boss, you must first embody those qualities yourself.
At least, that’s my theory. I’m trying this paradigm in a few areas of my life, so I thought, why not share this without proof or past experience. 😊
Embracing this mindset demands extreme ownership—taking full responsibility for your actions and personal growth. It also requires patience and consistent, intentional effort.
Let’s dive into some examples of how you can truly Be what you seek in your everyday life:
1. Friendships: Be the Best Friend
- Show Genuine Interest: Listen actively when your friends share their day-to-day stories, ask about their challenges, and be eager to celebrate their successes.
- Be Reliable: Deliver on your promises and be there when they need you.
- Celebrate Their Wins: Don’t hesitate to offer praise and support. Cheering them on sparks a ripple effect of encouragement.
- Be Honest: It’s essential to be genuine, even if that means telling a friend when they’ve made a mistake.
- Challenge them.
Actionable Tip: This week, choose one friend and reach out with a sincere compliment or ask about their day.
2. Romantic Relationships: Be the Best Partner
- Invest Time and Energy: Relationships thrive on quality time. Make sure your partner feels heard, valued, and cherished.
- Practice Empathy-Pay Attention: Try to see things from your partner’s perspective. Empathy can transform potential conflicts into opportunities for a deeper connection.
- Tell the truth, no matter what: Honest communication—whether sharing your dreams or discussing challenges—builds intimacy and trust.
- Show Respect: Respect your partner’s needs, time, and emotions. It’s the foundation of a healthy, balanced relationship.
- Show up.
Actionable Tip: Today, set aside distractions for at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted quality time with your partner. Use this time to have an open, heartfelt conversation or go for a walk.
3. Family Dynamics: Create More Love at Home
- Show Appreciation: Simple gestures—like saying “thank you” or leaving a kind note—go a long way in nurturing strong family bonds.
- Prioritize Family: Make family a priority. Sometimes, putting aside other distractions shows how much you value your loved ones.
- Give Without Expectation: Offer love and support freely, without expecting anything in return.
- Lead by Example: Demonstrate patience, understanding, and kindness—even when things get stressful. And don’t forget to say “I love you” regularly.
Actionable Tip: Challenge yourself to express gratitude to a family member today—send a note, make a call, or simply say “I appreciate you” during a meal.
4. Workplace Relationships: Be the Best Leader or Colleague
- Lead with Integrity: Whether you’re managing up, down, or across, honesty and transparency create a respectful and productive work environment.
- Empower Others: Offer guidance, mentorship, and recognition. Hold people accountable when necessary, and always look to uplift your colleagues.
- Maintain a Positive Attitude: A calm, constructive approach can transform challenging situations into opportunities for growth and innovation.
- Show Empathy and Understanding: Recognize that everyone is different. Take the time to understand your team members—their objectives, strengths, and weaknesses—and provide the support they need to succeed.
Actionable Tip: Identify one colleague this week whom you can support—offer a word of encouragement or share constructive feedback to help them overcome a challenge.
More Ways to “Be What You Seek”
- Kindness: Offer sincere compliments, help without being asked, or simply check in on someone having a tough day.
- Respect: Listen actively, acknowledge different viewpoints, and value everyone’s time.
- Trust: Be consistent and transparent, and follow through on your commitments.
- Patience: Stay calm and use challenges as opportunities for thoughtful reflection.
- Positivity: Celebrate small wins, express gratitude, and maintain a hopeful outlook.
- Generosity: Offer your time, support, and feedback freely to help others grow.
- Empathy: See things from others’ perspectives and validate their feelings.
- Integrity: Stick to your principles and let your actions reflect your values.
- Creativity: Invest in your creative pursuits, experiment with new ideas, and learn from successes and failures.
- Community: Engage locally, support your neighbors, and contribute to causes that unite people.
conclusion
These examples reinforce one core message: Be what you seek.
By modeling the behaviors you wish to see—kindness, respect, trust, or creativity—you set the stage for those qualities to return to you. Start small, be intentional, and watch how your relationships and environment transform positively.
Thank you for reading!